Donât be angry
Ephesians 4:26 gives us sound counsel when it comes to issues of anger. It says, âBe angry, and yet do not sinâ¦â Anger is an emotion common to all of humanity. The emotion of anger by itself is not sinful for Paul tells us to âbe angryâ, which is his concession to the emotion of anger.
He does command us, however, not to sin, which tells us that what we do with our anger could lead us into sinful actions. For instance, we may get angry when someone cuts us off on the freeway. If we then calm down and forgive that person as we drive, the anger we experience does not escalate into a sinful action, like speeding up and tailgating the culprit.
Hereâs a good rule of thumb whenever you discipline your children. Never discipline when angry. You may overstep good boundaries of discipline if you do.
If you only discipline when you are angry, it probably means you waited too long to act. Often times, parents donât do anything about misbehavior until they get upset and then they over-react to the infraction.
For example, your teenager breaks curfew by an hour and you are perturbed but donât do anything. This happens two more times and you begin to get really annoyed but fail to respond. On the fourth occasion, they return home five minutes late and you get really upset and ground them for a month. The discipline doesnât seem to match the current offense, which is all the teenager sees.
Learn to act sooner. Address any issue when it happens and donât allow for things to escalate.
Administer chastisement out of a heart of love
Hebrews 12:6 teaches us that âFor whom the Lord loves He disciplinesâ¦â God disciplines His children because He loves them.
Proverbs 3:12 says, âFor whom the LORD loves He reproves, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.â Again, we see that the Lord reproves or disciplines those whom He loves. The writer of Proverbs also gives an earthly example of a father who delights or loves his earthly son.
In reference to discipline, James Dobson says, âLet love be your guideâ. If we choose to discipline our children because we love them, we will be on the right track.
So, never discipline as a result of anger and apply discipline out of a heart of love. No one said it was going to be easy.
Something to think aboutâ¦